Have you ever felt like life just keeps throwing crap at you? Like you just get back on your feet and things are going good and then bam! Another curve ball that stops you in your tracks? Sometimes you see it coming, but other times it is a total surprise. Have you ever felt like your whole world is falling apart because of circumstances beyond your control? Like not just one curve ball, but several simultaneously from different sides?
Somedays I just want to scream “why me again?”
– Like when I lost my job and my husband and I decided to end the marriage in the same week.
– Or when my husband went to bed to self-medicate his depression for 6 months, on the same day I started back to work form maternity leave and had 2 young children to take care of –
– Or when I discovered a very dear friend of mine was about to lose his family and his job because of his Cocaine addiction and then learned someone very close to me was his supplier and both needed help immediately.
All of these were very stressful and difficult times in my life that forced me to deal with 2 different crisis simultaneously while trying to maintain and protect my own family and loved ones from further impact.
Well the past week is right up there with those times in my autobiography of life. I don’t want to get into the details in this post, I want to get to the Feeling Good part. Focusing more on how I have coped with the stress, then the causes of the stress. To give you a little perspective, I have had to make some very serious parenting decisions in order to protect and help my teenagers to get through some difficult times that has had a major impact on our lives and at the same time, my father’s health has taken another turn that forced him back in the hospital 3 times this month. Being the only income and a solo parent, the requirement to work and look after household responsibilities that normally fill my week just piled on top to make the last couple of weeks almost unbearable. So needless to say, there was an overabundance of emotional worry and physical demands to keep life going.
Thinking back to the events of the past week, I wonder how i am surviving. And as I started to think about another “Surviving Me” post, I realized that I am doing so much better than surviving, I am actually thriving under the circumstances. Yes Thriving! I feel empowered and emotionally strong. I know there isn’t much I can do, but then when there is something for me to do, I feel confident and ready to do it. I am completely emotionally involved and have high stakes in the outcome of both situations I am dealing with, but it hasn’t completely derailed me. It is so hard to explain but I know that I have never felt so strong and empowered in the face of such high levels of emotional stress. And in that strength, I am far more clear about how I can help and what I can control and/or influence. As a result I am also more open to receiving help from others. Seeing this, I feel even more empowered! It is like a new super-power!
So what has changed for me? What am I doing differently? Really only 1 thing is different – I am taking care of myself first!
That’s it! That is what I never did before – I always put everyone else’s needs ahead of mine and I never really got back to my needs. And by the time someone reminded me about me, I was too exhausted and it was too late, my health had suffered and my relationships had suffered. The irony is, that by taking care of myself first, I have far more energy and am feeling better than I have in years despite the stressful circumstances surrounding me and my family right now.
So how did I take care of myself you may ask? Simple:
Self-care & Supplements!
The number one thing I am doing better is taking care of myself – taking time for me and doing things I enjoy on the hard days. Like maybe sleeping in a little longer than normal, or reading a book that isn’t based on how I can help others, or meeting friends for a glass of wine s and not talking about the hard stuff.
The supplements for hormone balance and energy has been a real surprise. I mean I have always supplemented my diet with vitamins and minerals to support a healthy lifestyle but something is different this time. I started taking a herbal mix for female hormone support about a month ago and a couple of weeks ago I started some homeopathic & B12 drops. Honestly my mood and energy levels in the face of this life-storm are astounding to me. And surprisingly my muffin top is vanishing – like WTH? It’s gotta be the drops cuz it isn’t from exercise or diet! One more strange thing I have discovered while taking these homeopathic drops – the cravings for comfort food have pretty much disappeared. It’s like I think about food that would normally bring me comfort and I don’t even want it now… maybe that explains why I feel leaner.
I didn’t intend for this to be a long post, but wanted to share that the little things we do for yourself, are the most important things we can do for our life!
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